Sex Therapy
Some of the common reasons people seek Sex Therapy are: difficulties with sexual interest and/or arousal, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, inability to orgasm, pelvic/vaginal pain, sexual identity concerns, and porn/sex addiction.
Sex therapy is an ever changing field. I believe in the New View* approach, which does not simply medicalize sexual problems but sees them in terms of a number of factors, such as: 1) sociocultural, political or economic contexts, 2) partner and relationship issues, 3) psychological factors, and/or 4) medical and/or physiological factors.
I practice Intimacy based* Sex Therapy in which the goals are: mutual satisfaction, greater capacity for intimacy, the development of self-esteem and not merely the removal of a sexual dysfunction. *Kleinplatz (2012)
Couples Sex Therapy
My couples’ Sex Therapy incorporates a framework for working together based on the Gottman Couples Method. This framework helps couples communicate to understand each others’ behaviours and deeper needs. Through such communication intimacy can be restored and, ultimately, greater sexual satisfaction.
Within this context, additional individual sessions may further explore the foundations of your personal issues, through which I can assist you to better understand your own interpersonal dynamics and relationship patterns and, potentially, alleviate trauma-based triggers.
When you see that you have a problem you want to work on, due to your relationship dynamics, let me help you make the shift toward better interpersonal relating through self-awareness, skill building and personal growth. It is always helpful, at any age, to work on your issues to improve your intimate relationships now and for the future.
Trauma Counselling Connection to Sex Therapy
My foundation as a Trauma Therapist enables me to work with deeply rooted sexuality problems, where more intensive work may be necessary.
This may involve the integration of other major therapeutic approaches such as: CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing), Feminist/Anti-oppression theory, Mindfulness and stress management practices.
We will collaborate to determine your needs, work toward gaining necessary information, insights, and coping strategies, to enable you to grow in your potential for a healthier sex life. Regardless of past disappointments and challenges, it is always possible to have more satisfying sexual and/or intimate relationships.
Sessions
I currently see clients, primarily, through online video sessions, with a few in-person sessions available at a South Surrey office. I see both couples and individuals. Even if your partner doesn’t want to attend, working on your own dynamics may be a start to improving your intimate/sexual relationship.